How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't

How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't

Lane Moore / Apr 26, 2019

How to Be Alone If You Want To and Even If You Don t The former Sex Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant funny and deeply moving first book Lan

  • Title: How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't
  • Author: Lane Moore
  • ISBN: How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't
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  • Page: 208
  • Format: Paperback
  • The former Sex Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book.Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance as she is on the page, as bot The former Sex Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book.Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award winning sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan But her story has had its obstacles, including being her own parent, living in her car as a teenager, and moving to New York City to pursue her dreams Through it all, she looked to movies, TV, and music as the family and support systems she never had.From spending the holidays alone to having better stranger luck than with those closest to her to feeling like the last hopeless romantic on earth, Lane reveals her powerful and entertaining journey in all its candor, anxiety, and ultimate acceptance with humor always her bolstering force and greatest gift How to Be Alone is a must read for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not Above all, it s a book for anyone who desperately wants to feel less alone and a little connected through reading her words Get A Copy Kindle Store UKOnline StoresAudibleBarnes NobleWalmart eBooksApple BooksGoogle PlayAbebooksBook DepositoryIndigoAlibrisBetter World BooksIndieBoundLibraries Or buy for Paperback, 224 pages Published November 6th 2018 by Atria Books More Details Original Title How to Be Alone If You Want To, and Even If You Don t ISBN 1501178830 ISBN13 9781501178832 Other Editions 6 All Editions Add a New Edition Combine Less Detail edit details Friend Reviews To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up Reader QA To ask other readers questions about How to Be Alone, please sign up

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    Lists with This Book The Good, Single Life 14 books 5 voters Memoir Published in Year 2018 206 books 78 voters More lists with this book Community Reviews Showing 1 30 Rating details Sort Default Filter Nov 09, 2018 Berit rated it really liked it Shelves 2018, net galley An authentic and raw memoir told with humor and honesty.For anybody that has ever felt lonelier in a room full of people than they would if they were Buy themselves this is not a self help book it is a memoir Lane Moore has laid herself bare in these poignant essays about human connection from a troubled child, to a tragic teenager, to a triumphant adult Lane Moore has struggled throughout with making connections that some of us take for granted.I thoroughly enjoyed Lane s ins An authentic and raw memoir told with humor and honesty.For anybody that has ever felt lonelier in a room full of people than they would if they were Buy themselves this is not a self help book it is a memoir Lane Moore has laid herself bare in these poignant essays about human connection from a troubled child, to a tragic teenager, to a triumphant adult Lane Moore has struggled throughout with making connections that some of us take for granted.I thoroughly enjoyed Lane s insights of not only herself but of others as well some of these essays were hard to read, but they were all totaled with integrity and a generous dose of humor really appreciated that humor was found in even the darkest of situations some of these essays really resonated with me and I found myself sharing some of the insights with my friend on our weekly walk and my oldest son who is away at college.This definitely is not my usual type of read, but I thoroughly enjoyed it It was well written, relatable, and tremendously insightful I love humor in my books and this book had a huge dose of that I absolutely recommend this book I think it will resonate with most people, because most of us have had times in our lives where it was harder to connect then others many thanks to Atria for my copy flag 66 likesLike see review View all 3 comments Oct 15, 2018 Kendall rated it it was ok review of another edition Shelves 2018, netgalley approved I am pleased that I was given the chance to read this book but I was left with confusion on what exactly I read I felt that the message and title of the book was very misleading I thought it was going to be about people that are alone and how to overcome the challenges that are associated with being alone But, the story was focused primarily about Lane Moore s life and not being alone I think that being alone can mean different things to different people and clearly I feel that the messag I am pleased that I was given the chance to read this book but I was left with confusion on what exactly I read I felt that the message and title of the book was very misleading I thought it was going to be about people that are alone and how to overcome the challenges that are associated with being alone But, the story was focused primarily about Lane Moore s life and not being alone I think that being alone can mean different things to different people and clearly I feel that the message behind Moore s book was she had romantic relationships, friends, etc and felt completely alone in the world I feel like because I was so focused on it being the latter of what I felt the book should be about I just was pretty disappointed I think the novel would have been a lot stronger if Lane Moore offered advice at the end of each chapter behind her stories of her life.Overall, 2.5 stars on this for me.Huge thank you to Atria and Netgalley for a copy of this arc in exchange for my honest review.Publication date 11 6 18Published to GR 10 15 18 flag 62 likesLike see review View all 17 comments Nov 07, 2018 Joshunda Sanders rated it it was amazing This review originally appeared in Bitch Magazine Dear Lane,Initially, I was skeptical about reading your memoir How to Be Alone If You Want To, and Even If You Don t How to be alone my lady brain snarked How to be in a relationship that lasts longer than six months is what I need I ve been single for most of my adult life, and I ve attended a lot of therapy about it Despite the fact that there were 110 million unmarried people in the United States in 2016, it s still hard to be a sin This review originally appeared in Bitch Magazine Dear Lane,Initially, I was skeptical about reading your memoir How to Be Alone If You Want To, and Even If You Don t How to be alone my lady brain snarked How to be in a relationship that lasts longer than six months is what I need I ve been single for most of my adult life, and I ve attended a lot of therapy about it Despite the fact that there were 110 million unmarried people in the United States in 2016, it s still hard to be a single woman There are financial, emotional, and social costs to living outside of a relationship than is usually discussed with any nuance, empathy, or compassion I m an expert on the single lady experience I ve read many books and wrote one about the subject.I ve ranted in the pages of Bitch about the single lady industrial complex, led by Steve fucking Harvey, that advises Black women on how we can become worthy of companionship Despite my cynicism, I got out of my own way and let your amazing story break my heart wide open How To Be Alone s vulnerability, humor, and naked emotion was profoundly healing, and reading it was one of the first times I recognized myself in nonfiction When you describe yourself as a real life Matilda surrounded by biological family, who, in constantly rotating ways, couldn t be bothered, I was astonished that we ve both been orphaned in the same way, alone in a way you can never quite describe to people I m the youngest child of a single mom with a history of mental illness My brother Jose died a couple of years before I was born, so I was partially named for him.My mother unraveled as she grieved, which left her unable to parent me or my siblings By the time she died six years ago, I d forgiven her, though it still hurts to have been unmothered I parented her and myself while my siblings were cared for by others I met my father when I was 18, but he was too inconsistent, wounded, and distant We tried to understand each other, but too much time had already passed He died by suicide in 2010.When I officially became an orphan, I thought that it could be a new beginning for me It was and it wasn t There aren t many books that explore how to be alone that aren t about waiting or preparing to become part of a couple because capitalist patriarchy normalizes and valorizes heterosexual romantic relationships That s partly why I wrote Single Happy The Party of Ones in 2013 But Sasha Cagen s Quirkyalone, a book that centers people who d rather be single than settle for the wrong relationship, is probably the best thing I ve read about learning to enjoy solitude It s hard not to be in a relationship, especially this time of year when holiday gatherings typically involve people with families and significant others.Like you, I have always felt a little weird about finding a soulmate, so I deeply related to your explanation for why relationships are so hard for people like us There s a specific sort of obsession with love that you re bound to find yourself having once you ve realized, on any level, that you don t have a family the way you re supposed to, you write There s a need in there to be normal, to be wanted, to belong to anyone, anywhere, as soon as humanly possible, that lends itself to loving super romantic shit of all kinds Your book offered me catharsis as someone who struggles with anxious attachment as a result of surviving childhood trauma.It made me turn questions that I used to direct at potential partners toward myself How had I not understood before that I pick unsafe people to love and attach to Where would I have ever learned a healthier way One of the most beautiful things about your book is that it complicates narratives around family, belonging, and loneliness It shatters stigmas and silences with humor while naming deep, codependent patterns in all kinds of relationships Most books about being single aren t usually as entertaining and instructive as yours because they react to a canon of nonfiction rooted in heterosexist patriarchy.Your book is so important because you assert that you can belong to yourself first or even always if you want to and you can learn to view friends as family instead of becoming fixated on not having the traditional family You write about wanting to belong to someone so badly that you let yourself become a doormat You stopped having needs in order to become the perfect partner Yes Even when my parents were absent, I was still attached to the idea that their struggles were a form of love It took a long time to write a different story for myself But now, I think I can.One year, I ghosted on a Thanksgiving gathering for orphans, and I was relieved to read that I m not alone in this experience You perfectly describe the unconscious torture our beloveds inflict on us by inviting us to these holiday soir es It s so hard to tell people, Yeah, the holidays kind of bum me out because my best friend as a kid was a caterpillar I kept in a muffin tin liner in my room You end up feeling like you don t have a place in the world because your genuine, deeply felt and often beyond painful feelings about your nontraditional family situation get swept under the rug in favor of easier, normal frustrations with otherwise good families I have always felt lonely at orphan Thanksgivings, and as an introvert, I resent being surrounded by strangers, usually in pairs or otherwise unavailable, on a day of national significance The question I am always negotiating, even after years of therapy, is whether it s valid to just skip these functions instead of trying to make them work Holiday gatherings will always be hard if you haven t had a normal experience, but practicing different ways to make them feel better is worth a shot Reading How to Be Alone is like having real talk with the friend who loves you too much to lie to you That friend will light the path back to yourself when you get seduced by your own darkness.The most epic, incredible, soaring parts of your story, are the places where you re tender, and funny, but also so harrowingly sad and devastated Your commitment to survival is than a notion it s a balm, an affirmation, an eternal love note, and a sacred love manifestation that starts as a whisper and rises into the atmosphere How to be Alone gave me closure What a gift it is to know that there s another person in the world who s so brave and true to her spirit that she survived the hardest parts of being alive Instead of sinking into despair or madness being waylaid by bitterness or tragedy or turning the grueling and terrifying dark of isolation against yourself, you ve transmuted it into a fire so bright that it blazes brilliantly, with a classic, universal humanity James Baldwin said, You think your heartbreak is unprecedented in the world, and then you read How To Be Alone is like that.Lane, you deserve every single fucking good thing that happens to you Thank you for reminding those of us who have survived hard things that we do, too.With gratitude, admiration, and love,Joshunda flag 20 likesLike see review View 2 comments Oct 29, 2018 Etienne rated it it was ok A very misleading title premise for this book It has nothing to do with loneliness or solitary person, it s like a biography, very personal, about the author and her own experience with solitude and not Closer to a biography, no reflexion or explanation here If you love this author person you may enjoy it, but if you are looking for something to help yourself, this isn t the right book flag 17 likesLike see review Nov 06, 2018 Stella rated it it was ok So here s the thing On paper, I think I am supposed to fall all over myself about this book It s a series of essays from a comedian who lives in New York and writes for publications I know and does comedy shows in places I frequent Butin reality, I could not connect with this book Lane Moore is a talented writer, that s a fact However I couldn t connect with these essays With a title of How to Be Alone I assumed this would focus on empowering oneself to be an independent person, liv So here s the thing On paper, I think I am supposed to fall all over myself about this book It s a series of essays from a comedian who lives in New York and writes for publications I know and does comedy shows in places I frequent Butin reality, I could not connect with this book Lane Moore is a talented writer, that s a fact However I couldn t connect with these essays With a title of How to Be Alone I assumed this would focus on empowering oneself to be an independent person, living their best life, despite whatever obstacles may pop up Instead this focuses on Moore s anger about her family and past, as well as her striving for romantic relationships It felt empty to me The need to fill the hole left by the lack of a support system is very apparent in these essays I get it, I totally understand, but this writing feels like pre therapy journal entries of a self depreciating writer Find your family Accept the love and support that your friends offer Also, not to be a total bitch, but moving to New York City on your own doesn t make you special, millions of people do it Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read and review this book flag 14 likesLike see review Sep 06, 2018 Tabitha rated it it was amazing I received an advanced readers copy of this book, but all opinions are 100% my own How to Be Alone is the soon to be released book by Lane Moore If you haven t heard of her yet, I m confident one day soon you will Lane Moore is a comedian, musician, writer, and host of Tinder Live.Though technically How to Be Alone is an autobiography, it s than that Lane Moore s book is touching, witty, and relatable It discusses inadequacy, loneliness, longing for love, and finding your place in th I received an advanced readers copy of this book, but all opinions are 100% my own How to Be Alone is the soon to be released book by Lane Moore If you haven t heard of her yet, I m confident one day soon you will Lane Moore is a comedian, musician, writer, and host of Tinder Live.Though technically How to Be Alone is an autobiography, it s than that Lane Moore s book is touching, witty, and relatable It discusses inadequacy, loneliness, longing for love, and finding your place in the world both on a personal and interpersonal level.Told through 14 personal essays, Lane dives deep into her most personal thoughts and experiences From practically raising herself, living in her car, making the ballsy move to NYC, and reconstructing her heart after a series of toxic relationships, she bares it all To put it simply, this girl has been through some sh t But instead of letting that control the way she lives her life and sees the world, she uses humor, music, and writing to create a different picture.Read my full review here flag 8 likesLike see review Jan 09, 2019 Jeimy rated it did not like it This book has 15 chapters I only enjoyed two.A couple of my issues with this book 1 It feels like this author is whining for 80% of the book.2.It is hard for me to understand why she stays in relationships that are clearly causing her.I did thoroughly enjoy the chapter on Jim Harper flag 6 likesLike see review Nov 11, 2018 Amanda Helling rated it it was amazing Utterly fucking delightful.How to Be Alone is funny and intense It was a quick read for me, I think Or I got so lost in it that I had no idea time was passing Either way, it felt quick in the best possible way Moore s approach to story telling is down to Earth and so funny that I laughed out loud repeatedly I was hesitant at first about the vernacular style of the writing that hesitancy wore off quickly Reading Moore s words, I could imagine a real person talking to me, curse words an Utterly fucking delightful.How to Be Alone is funny and intense It was a quick read for me, I think Or I got so lost in it that I had no idea time was passing Either way, it felt quick in the best possible way Moore s approach to story telling is down to Earth and so funny that I laughed out loud repeatedly I was hesitant at first about the vernacular style of the writing that hesitancy wore off quickly Reading Moore s words, I could imagine a real person talking to me, curse words and all, and I loved every second of it.Moore offers up so many pieces of herself to her audience so honestly and earnestly that I feel like I know her I definitely do not, I know I do not, and yet By the end of the book, after reading about her stranger luck, you may feel like you want to invite her to stay with you in your house That s apparently not that weird.I highly recommend this quick, touching read flag 6 likesLike see review Nov 12, 2018 Audree Johnson rated it it was amazing I just finished this and I m border line ugly crying I m so thankful that Lane wrote this and put so much of herself in it no matter how hard it might have been I feel seen in a lot of new ways and I felt encouraged by Lane s ability to see such beautiful things even through and in spite of the pain in her past I wanted to be her friend before but now I ESPECIALY wish we were friends She s rad, everyone should read this book What a gift flag 6 likesLike see review Sep 10, 2018 Lindsey rated it it was ok Shelves essay collections, reviews Like some of the other reviewers, I was disappointed to find that this book of essays focuses mainly, though not exclusively, on the author s search for a romantic relationship I was expecting a collection about connecting with yourself and learning to enjoy spending quality time with yourself as a way of recharging from socializing I identified with some of the author s struggles to connect with other people, and her desperate need for a secure attachment However, the overall feel of the col Like some of the other reviewers, I was disappointed to find that this book of essays focuses mainly, though not exclusively, on the author s search for a romantic relationship I was expecting a collection about connecting with yourself and learning to enjoy spending quality time with yourself as a way of recharging from socializing I identified with some of the author s struggles to connect with other people, and her desperate need for a secure attachment However, the overall feel of the collection was a bit of a bummer, which is surprising considering Moore is a a comedian who b writes for the Onion I didn t even feel like she was making an attempt at wry, self deprecating humor I didn t find any humor, honestly I just felt sad.I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review flag 5 likesLike see review Sep 10, 2018 Katherine Gypson rated it it was amazing Lane Moore has written the book I needed to exist In some of the most raw, funny and kind writing I ve ever read, Moore not only bares her life, she says the unpopular, uncomfortable truths about life today that need to be said I rarely read books in one sitting but this was one of those experiences where it was like meeting a fascinating, witty, honest person and just wanting the conversation to keep on going I sobbed at the end of the book and truly consider the experience of reading i Lane Moore has written the book I needed to exist In some of the most raw, funny and kind writing I ve ever read, Moore not only bares her life, she says the unpopular, uncomfortable truths about life today that need to be said I rarely read books in one sitting but this was one of those experiences where it was like meeting a fascinating, witty, honest person and just wanting the conversation to keep on going I sobbed at the end of the book and truly consider the experience of reading it a gift Then I clicked over to to pre order a hard copy because I know this will go on my shelf next to How To Be a Person in the World and Tiny Beautiful Things How to Be Alone is that good flag 5 likesLike see review Nov 13, 2018 Abilouise rated it it was amazing I started reading this book on the subway coming home from the library because my phone went dead and so I couldn t listen to podcasts and play stupid games I got home, walking still reading it and 2 hours later realized I was still wearing an underwire bra because I hadn t put the book down yet At 7 15 I decided that I needed to eat something and so put down the book and started writing about how much I like this book so you would all know as soon as possible flag 4 likesLike see review Oct 11, 2018 Tanja rated it it was ok I didn t know anything about Lane Moore before reading her book but if I did I wouldn t have wished for it I found the swearing throughout to be offensive and perhaps this is Lane s no nonsense way of speaking her truth, but it wasn t something I liked I thought the title of her book and message misleading I thought this book was going to be a survival guide for loners, but instead it was a series of chapters about Lane, ironically not being alone There is a difference between being alone I didn t know anything about Lane Moore before reading her book but if I did I wouldn t have wished for it I found the swearing throughout to be offensive and perhaps this is Lane s no nonsense way of speaking her truth, but it wasn t something I liked I thought the title of her book and message misleading I thought this book was going to be a survival guide for loners, but instead it was a series of chapters about Lane, ironically not being alone There is a difference between being alone and feeling alone and this book is definitely about the latter One can be alone in this world by not having any friends whatsoever or never having been in a romantic relationship and another person can feel alone by having all those things which was Lane s issue I didn t feel her brutally honest stories of her life to be helpful in any way She didn t offer any concrete advice or make me feel better about my own life She tried linking her lonely childhood to her failed relationships as an adult but it felt like she was trying to sound like a therapistbut not a very good one I was left feeling very confused about this book The cover made it look like a psychology textbook and her central message was weak She didn t explain how to be alone It was of a rant and nostalgic trip down memory lane about her issues around attachments in relationships If she explained in her individual chapters about what it actually felt like to be alone in relationships it would have made a huge difference Also, if she offered advice or tips at the end of each chapter on how to work with this and accept it, this book would have been successful flag 4 likesLike see review Dec 28, 2018 Sarah rated it it was ok I don t know I guess this is well written It s just not for me I felt like sending her a therapy bill for having to grind through all these tedious stories about her struggle to be with other people and to be alone, and her life trauma She s a comedian so it s passably funny sometimes but not like HAHAHA funny at all Just blah flag 4 likesLike see review Dec 10, 2018 Huma Rashid rated it did not like it I got this bc I d seen great reviews and love memoirs, but OMG it is basically unreadable I hated it And I don t like the author at all Ugh flag 4 likesLike see review Jan 16, 2019 Amanda Van Parys rated it really liked it Shelves 2019, biography memoir, glbt plus, nonfiction It s been a while since I ve read a book basically in one sitting I really enjoyed this memoir that I didn t know was a memoir when I started reading it Sad, funny, witty, and insightful A great read if you re struggling with your personal history and identity A great read even if you re not flag 3 likesLike see review Nov 24, 2018 Meg A Bookish Affair rated it really liked it Shelves 2018, memoir, non fiction How to be Alone is a memoir by Lane Moore, most well known as an advice columnist or as the host of Tinder Live This memoir is filled with different stories from Moore s life that run the gamut of emotions, from heart wrenching to hilarious I didn t know what to expect from this book but was happy that I picked it up The book opens with a particularly sad story about how Lane Moore feels terribly alone to the point where she has no idea who to put down for an emergency contact She feels l How to be Alone is a memoir by Lane Moore, most well known as an advice columnist or as the host of Tinder Live This memoir is filled with different stories from Moore s life that run the gamut of emotions, from heart wrenching to hilarious I didn t know what to expect from this book but was happy that I picked it up The book opens with a particularly sad story about how Lane Moore feels terribly alone to the point where she has no idea who to put down for an emergency contact She feels like she is still trying to recover from her childhood as an adult, which broke my heart It was interesting to me that she led off with this story It was effective in getting me to read on but I did have to wonder how dark the book was going to be because of the story It could be a pretty difficult read for some Moore also tells some pretty funny stories that had me laughing out loud and cheering her on I do have to admit that the cover makes this book look very different than what it is, which was a little interesting to me Overall, this book had a great way of leading me through all sorts of emotions flag 3 likesLike see review Oct 18, 2018 Castille rated it it was amazing See full review at SometimesSnarky.home Lane Moore is the cutest human, creating relatable comedic material that is so raw, you ll want to cry and cuddle with her partly because she point blank states that she craves comfortable, platonic cuddling, and partly because you ve realized, while reading, how much you crave it, too And by the way, yes, I can say a woman is cute and still be a feminist I m not saying it in a condescending way I genuinely find Moore s outlook on life and her s See full review at SometimesSnarky.home Lane Moore is the cutest human, creating relatable comedic material that is so raw, you ll want to cry and cuddle with her partly because she point blank states that she craves comfortable, platonic cuddling, and partly because you ve realized, while reading, how much you crave it, too And by the way, yes, I can say a woman is cute and still be a feminist I m not saying it in a condescending way I genuinely find Moore s outlook on life and her sensitivity to be adorable, though by no stretch do I mean to suggest that this precludes her from also being a badass After all, how many authors have the brass to give their book the same name as a Franzen work, in the same nonfiction space I can just imagine a probably male editor saying so, Lane, we like all of it at least all of it we understand and digest but you do know the title is taken By none other than Jonathan Franzen and her being like yeah I know I like it, though end of story.I have a hunch this book won t appeal to everyone, and that quite a lot of people will find it too millennial too soft, too much complaining, too much But that s also what makes it so special, that it won t have universal appeal, that an agent and an editor and a publisher and all the other members of the village it takes to raise a book up from a conceptual stage, through publication , all found the story worthwhile They saw past profit margins, to the heart, and decided it was important to publish good writing that would likely only resonate with a niche market A book that could make an actual difference in Areader s life A book called How to be Alone, that, for a few hours, makes you feel you re not alone Someone, a real, living human, also experiences similar emotions, and she s afraid to express them, yet she pushes past her comfort zone to deliver us this gift.If you re a fan of funny female memoirs, or if Carrie Fisher, Jenny Lawson, or Sloane Crosley are on the top of your list, pick up this gem immediately.Rating 4.5 5 stars, rounded up on because 99% of the people on here are assholes or idiots or a combination of the two and I want to make sure I m bringing the average up flag 3 likesLike see review Aug 30, 2018 Colleen rated it it was amazing Shelves read in 2018 It s hard to find the words to explain my feelings about this book It s so raw and authentic and honest that some parts hurt to read The dark humour in it both lightened things up but also highlighted the pain Lane was and is dealing with If you like memoirs that hold nothing back and explore an aspect of the human condition that is key for all of us love then you need to read this book flag 3 likesLike see review Sep 06, 2018 Andrienne rated it really liked it More like 3.5 stars It was not the book I was expecting I should have paid attention that the author was a relationship editor whose book would most likely be about finding a romantic relationship versus just finding a connection with someone I was very interested in her experience living independently at a young age and having the guts to pursue what she wants She details her mercurial adventures in dating and all the while, I keep thinking, she sure meets a lot of interesting characters n More like 3.5 stars It was not the book I was expecting I should have paid attention that the author was a relationship editor whose book would most likely be about finding a romantic relationship versus just finding a connection with someone I was very interested in her experience living independently at a young age and having the guts to pursue what she wants She details her mercurial adventures in dating and all the while, I keep thinking, she sure meets a lot of interesting characters not to mention many strangers who have ultimately stood in for a family There were times that I felt like she contradicted herself, which explains the one less star rating Ultimately, there is plenty of insight here about what people want and she gives advice to those who feel like they don t fall in any particular category, but know that it might feel a bit preachy for those who are jaded Thanks to the publisher for access to the review copy flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 27, 2018 Joy rated it it was amazing This is than a memoir this book invites you to into a confessional contract, the intimate trust of a deep story well told Balancing candor and humor and pain and bravery in equal parts, Moore s How to Be Alone isn t an instructional manual, it s a demonstration closely tendered You ll probably laugh sometimes and cry sometimes and think about all the people you ve loved you couldn t connect with But the biggest gift is that you ll look back on yourself over the years and see not only This is than a memoir this book invites you to into a confessional contract, the intimate trust of a deep story well told Balancing candor and humor and pain and bravery in equal parts, Moore s How to Be Alone isn t an instructional manual, it s a demonstration closely tendered You ll probably laugh sometimes and cry sometimes and think about all the people you ve loved you couldn t connect with But the biggest gift is that you ll look back on yourself over the years and see not only the times when you tried and failed to be better than your circunstances you ll see the times you were the best self you took for granted.I don t quite know how to deal with this book yet I wasn t prepared to feel so seen But the truth is that spending time reading this book is to witness the author seeing herself And my tender aftermath is really me being there for me Moore s a master of letting laughter and sadness occupy the same space It s a beautiful thing, to see how funny and dear we all are, even when we re terrified we won t be able to stand up to life And this book both the writing of it and reading of it is a gorgeous act of optimism It s an invitation to keep the faith You ll read this book and not only feel blessed that the author shared her story with you You ll feel freer to accept your own company, as is, no judgment And that s the whole point of How to Be Alone flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 13, 2018 Stephanie LiVigni rated it it was amazing When I preordered this book, I felt like it was coming at just the right time in my life Having now inhaled it in one sitting, I don t think there could have ever been a wrong time Moore can t help but imbibe every page with humor, regardless of the subject matter, and even when I was reading through tears which I did no less than six times, folks I was laughing out loud I ve struggled since high school with how to navigate romantic relationships I wrote a paper in my junior year about my When I preordered this book, I felt like it was coming at just the right time in my life Having now inhaled it in one sitting, I don t think there could have ever been a wrong time Moore can t help but imbibe every page with humor, regardless of the subject matter, and even when I was reading through tears which I did no less than six times, folks I was laughing out loud I ve struggled since high school with how to navigate romantic relationships I wrote a paper in my junior year about my resistance to pressure to lower my standards and settle , and over a decade later not much has changed That apparent self confidence is completely at odds with my debilitating fear of ending up never making that connection I m holding out for a fear that looms larger as every day brings me closer to turning 30 This book was one of the first pieces of pop culture I ve encountered that validated that unsustainable dichotomy, instead of spending untold time and energy trying to see what s out there That happiness I m looking for cannot be forced This is true not just for romantic relationships but for family and friends as well, and Moore doesn t seem to hold anything back when she includes visceral personal anecdotes to propel this book beyond a mere memoir or self help book and towards something that is far greater than the sum of its parts I would tell you all the ways, big and small, I felt like this book resonated with me so personally and so specifically, but I get the feeling that everyone will find something that speaks almost scarily directly to their personal experiences here Lane Moore has done a monumentally courageous thing with How To Be Alone, and I could not be grateful to her for that flag 2 likesLike see review Jan 06, 2019 Taylor rated it it was ok The depressed, self centered ramblings of a chronically depressed woman about how horrible all her relationships are got old pretty fast Basically a memoir of a very mundane woman with little excitement in her life If I wasn t reading this for a book club, it would have taken a place on my shelf for booms I couldn t force myself to finish It was very anti climatic There were a couple interesting points, but I kept finding my self skimming sections in hopes of reaching the end flag 2 likesLike see review Jan 02, 2019 Anne Marie rated it did not like it Shelves tried failed uncompelled If you think being a conventionally attractive white woman is easy, think again There has never been anyone on earth who s had it harder than Lane Moore She s the most underprivileged person alive Her parents were shittier than any other humans that have ever had children before or since Her boyfriends were all monsters Every apartment was a slum I truly don t know anyone with a family who doesn t use them like a fucking credit card with every dollar matched by cash back rewards Bitch If you think being a conventionally attractive white woman is easy, think again There has never been anyone on earth who s had it harder than Lane Moore She s the most underprivileged person alive Her parents were shittier than any other humans that have ever had children before or since Her boyfriends were all monsters Every apartment was a slum I truly don t know anyone with a family who doesn t use them like a fucking credit card with every dollar matched by cash back rewards Bitch You don t know anyone who doesn t do this And that was stated after she talked about her high school trip to Germany Because that s not privileged At all flag 2 likesLike see review Dec 31, 2018 Noorilhuda rated it did not like it The author s thoughts, actions and life are not interesting enough to warrant a book Neither is her writing.Insipid, at best.Memorable quote When you have a lot of shine to you, as so many bighearted people often do, you can attract a lot of people easily, because people are drawn to it, that kind of light It can be so easy to forget tat not everyone deserves your shine But when you spend so much of your earliest years being told you have no shine at all, even though you re pretty sure maybe The author s thoughts, actions and life are not interesting enough to warrant a book Neither is her writing.Insipid, at best.Memorable quote When you have a lot of shine to you, as so many bighearted people often do, you can attract a lot of people easily, because people are drawn to it, that kind of light It can be so easy to forget tat not everyone deserves your shine But when you spend so much of your earliest years being told you have no shine at all, even though you re pretty sure maybe you do, and someone finally tells you they see it too, you do, you have it, you want to give them everything Because of this, often than not, you re not falling in love with them, you re using them as a way to fall in love with yourself flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 09, 2018 Katie Russo rated it it was amazing You book that trip for yourself, you take yourself to dinner and enjoy it the same as if someone else took you out You take all that love you keep giving to selfish idiots and try to throw some of it in the general direction of your own heart and you pray even a little bit of it sticks there I engulfed 95% of this book in one sitting the second I got it I waited to read the last chapter because I wasn t ready for it to be over yet Never has a book so spot on encapsulated everything I ve You book that trip for yourself, you take yourself to dinner and enjoy it the same as if someone else took you out You take all that love you keep giving to selfish idiots and try to throw some of it in the general direction of your own heart and you pray even a little bit of it sticks there I engulfed 95% of this book in one sitting the second I got it I waited to read the last chapter because I wasn t ready for it to be over yet Never has a book so spot on encapsulated everything I ve been feeling and trying to put into words over the years If you ve ever felt Othered because of your family situation or lack thereof , romantic situation or lack thereof , if you re always the Single friend, if you hate most major holidays for good reasons , if you re a diehard hopeless romantic who has spent too much time trying to curb yourself to please others, or made to feel like your feelings weren t valid or that you were feeling too much or that you wanted too much or let someone or many people make you feel like shit for HAVING FEELINGS WANTING LOVE then this book is for you Reading it felt like I was sitting down with a very loving, affirming friend simultaneously telling me everything s all right while allowing me to cry over it at the same time Thank you, thank you, thank you Lane Moore flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 15, 2018 Michelle Mulligan rated it it was amazing Lane, you have crafted a modern masterpiece Thank you so much for baring your soul with such bravery and skill Anyone who has left a party thinking, oh well, I guess I can say I went somewhere will totally relate to this book.I felt like I was a tourist in a strange and mesmerizing version of my own brain Your voice was spectacular and moving the whole way Prince Edward Island Not Yet Check A Deep and Embarrassing Hunger For Romance Check As a fellow queer, bisexual woman, it meant eve Lane, you have crafted a modern masterpiece Thank you so much for baring your soul with such bravery and skill Anyone who has left a party thinking, oh well, I guess I can say I went somewhere will totally relate to this book.I felt like I was a tourist in a strange and mesmerizing version of my own brain Your voice was spectacular and moving the whole way Prince Edward Island Not Yet Check A Deep and Embarrassing Hunger For Romance Check As a fellow queer, bisexual woman, it meant everything for me to read your description of a romantic life that doesn t fit into conventions Please keep on writing, and breathing, Lane The world hums smoothly with your energy within it flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 12, 2018 Brendan McGuire rated it it was amazing I bought this book last week and it has seriously helped me in so many ways Besides being incredibly entertaining and compelling, I relate so much to so many things written in this book and it has helped me see and feel things that have been true for me for a long time that I couldn t describe or identify I m in the middle of getting divorced, which has impacted my life a lot lately, and this book has helped me reconcile some of those feelings tremendously I see so much of myself and my relat I bought this book last week and it has seriously helped me in so many ways Besides being incredibly entertaining and compelling, I relate so much to so many things written in this book and it has helped me see and feel things that have been true for me for a long time that I couldn t describe or identify I m in the middle of getting divorced, which has impacted my life a lot lately, and this book has helped me reconcile some of those feelings tremendously I see so much of myself and my relationship in this book, it has made me think about who I am and why I am the way that I am, and that is something that is so helpful to me right now.Highly recommend 10 10 would read again flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 10, 2018 Alex Schmider rated it it was amazing For anyone who has ever felt alone, misunderstood, or misplaced in their life, read this book While writing about very personal experiences, Moore has an incomparable way of making you feel a part of her journey and her part of yours Where she finds and makes humor of the world is like no other author I ve read, and is a much needed and welcomed voice on today s bookshelves for literally everyone flag 2 likesLike see review Nov 09, 2018 Claire Levy rated it it was amazing This book made me reflect on parts of my childhood and how they ve impacted my relationships in a way that was deeply moving You can hear Lane s voice so clearly through her writing it s like sitting down for a coffee together and listening to her tell her story You feel how much she cares about you even though you ve never met her, and long before the end of the book you care so much about her too, and wish you could just hold her hand and tell her she s not alone flag 2 likesLike see review previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next new topicDiscuss This Book There are no discussion topics on this book yet Be the first to start one Share Recommend It Stats Recent Status Updates Readers Also Enjoyed

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        Lane Moore is an award winning stand up comedian, writer, actor, and musician living in New York City Paste Magazine named her 19 of the 75 Funniest People On Twitter, Brooklyn Magazine named her one of The 50 Funniest People in Brooklyn, BUST Magazine named her one of 10 Funny Ladies You Need To Be Watching, and Village Voice named her Queen Of Disdain, in their Best Of New York issue, Out Ma Lane Moore is an award winning stand up comedian, writer, actor, and musician living in New York City Paste Magazine named her 19 of the 75 Funniest People On Twitter, Brooklyn Magazine named her one of The 50 Funniest People in Brooklyn, BUST Magazine named her one of 10 Funny Ladies You Need To Be Watching, and Village Voice named her Queen Of Disdain, in their Best Of New York issue, Out Magazine named her one of the Out 100 of 2017, and Bustle named her one of their Comedy Class of 2017 comedians Her monthly comedy show Tinder LIVE was named on The New York Times Critic s Picks, and CBS called it one of the 5 Best Comedy Shows in NYC BUST Magazine named her band It Was Romance the Best Band of 2015 and Billboard named them one of 16 Female Fronted Bands You Should Know.The New York Times called her comedy show Tinder LIVE truly addictive entertainment it s ingenious Moore transforms the banter on a dating app into compelling long form improvisation Ms Moore, a cagey and humane performer, has developed an instinct for turning the raw materials of sexually charged chat with ordinary strangers into honed and generous jokes Tinder Live has a comic momentum and energy that is unusual The way she manipulates tone and pace reveals an artist supremely confident in her form, not to mention a flirt par excellence The New York Times called her appearance on season five of HBO s GIRLS one of my favorite moments of this season Moore is wonderful Vogue called her a jack of all trades, adding, her Instagram videos give me life She is also a recurring panelist on the brand new Rooster Teeth TV show What Do You Know airing on GO90 In 2017, she had an appearance on midnight with a segment based on her popular Instagram account, Hotties of MTV s Next, and an appearance on MTV s TRL.In 2016, she won a GLAAD award for her work with Cosmopolitan for Best Overall Magazine Coverage and was also nominated for a 2016 White House LGBT Champions of Change award Pride named her one of their 67 Young People Who Are Changing The World, who praised her for creating queer visibility in Cosmopolitan Magazine and being funny as hell In 2017, Go Magazine named her one of 100 Women We Love, praising her for managing a nonstop cycle of creativity She is a prolific writer for The Onion, The New Yorker Shouts and Murmurs, The Washington Post where she regularly writes for relationship column Solo ish , McSweeney s, GQ, Glamour, Playboy, MTV, former Sex Relationships Editor at Cosmopolitan The Laugh Button called Lane Moore a real triple threat an NYC based stand up comedian, she s also the host of hit show Tinder Live, and a seriously badass singer who fronts the band It Was Romance In 2015, Pitchfork named the self titled debut album from her band, It Was Romance, one of their Records To Watch This Summer, BuzzFeed called their first single one of the Best Of The Summer, and BUST Magazine called the band the Best Band of 2015 Village Voice premiered the first single, Philadelphia, calling the song mysterious but undeniably attractive It evokes feelings of loneliness with a danceable beat, not unlike a somber nighttime walk home on wet roads, with colorful, joyous city lights reflecting like a black mirror and praising the album for its glittering instrumental aspect and Moore s velvety vocal delivery make the rest of It Was Romance saunter around like the life of the party, occasionally winking just to make sure you re hooked Paste Magazine described the band as Hearkening back to a Dig Me Out era Sleater Kinney, Moore s expansive sound covers love and all its mishaps with a catchy, blast loud and sing proud thoughtfulness


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    1. An authentic and raw memoir told with humor and honesty.For anybody that has ever felt lonelier in a room full of people than they would if they were Buy themselves this is not a self help book it is a memoir Lane Moore has laid herself bare in these poignant essays about human connection from a troubled child, to a tragic teenager, to a triumphant adult Lane Moore has struggled throughout with making connections that some of us take for granted.I thoroughly enjoyed Lane s ins An authentic and r [...]


    2. I am pleased that I was given the chance to read this book but I was left with confusion on what exactly I read I felt that the message and title of the book was very misleading I thought it was going to be about people that are alone and how to overcome the challenges that are associated with being alone But, the story was focused primarily about Lane Moore s life and not being alone I think that being alone can mean different things to different people and clearly I feel that the messag I am p [...]


    3. This review originally appeared in Bitch Magazine Dear Lane,Initially, I was skeptical about reading your memoir How to Be Alone If You Want To, and Even If You Don t How to be alone my lady brain snarked How to be in a relationship that lasts longer than six months is what I need I ve been single for most of my adult life, and I ve attended a lot of therapy about it Despite the fact that there were 110 million unmarried people in the United States in 2016, it s still hard to be a sin This revie [...]


    4. A very misleading title premise for this book It has nothing to do with loneliness or solitary person, it s like a biography, very personal, about the author and her own experience with solitude and not Closer to a biography, no reflexion or explanation here If you love this author person you may enjoy it, but if you are looking for something to help yourself, this isn t the right book


    5. So here s the thing On paper, I think I am supposed to fall all over myself about this book It s a series of essays from a comedian who lives in New York and writes for publications I know and does comedy shows in places I frequent Butin reality, I could not connect with this book Lane Moore is a talented writer, that s a fact However I couldn t connect with these essays With a title of How to Be Alone I assumed this would focus on empowering oneself to be an independent person, liv So here s th [...]


    6. I received an advanced readers copy of this book, but all opinions are 100% my own How to Be Alone is the soon to be released book by Lane Moore If you haven t heard of her yet, I m confident one day soon you will Lane Moore is a comedian, musician, writer, and host of Tinder Live.Though technically How to Be Alone is an autobiography, it s than that Lane Moore s book is touching, witty, and relatable It discusses inadequacy, loneliness, longing for love, and finding your place in th I received [...]


    7. This book has 15 chapters I only enjoyed two.A couple of my issues with this book 1 It feels like this author is whining for 80% of the book.2.It is hard for me to understand why she stays in relationships that are clearly causing her.I did thoroughly enjoy the chapter on Jim Harper.


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